I sonder lonely as a cloud

Greg Wyatt • November 14, 2024

Sonder has wandered in and out of my awareness over the past few years.

It’s a curious word which means “the feeling one has on realizing that every other individual one sees has a life as full and real as one’s own, in which they are the central character and others, including oneself, have secondary or insignificant roles.”

Coined by John Koenig in 2012’s Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows.


Everyone is the hero of their own stories.

Who are we to them?

Faceless strangers, future colleagues or friends, people they enjoy encountering, or could we even be the baddies ?


I often talk about the importance of establishing context at the start of any hiring process.

This is as much with a candidate as it is with a vacancy.

If we don’t understand the context behind a candidate’s potential desire to move, or how it may relate to an interest in our recruitment, we set ourselves up for a surprise.

If someone ghosts us, lets us down, accepts a counter or alternative offer - and they are the hero of their own story - then they may have good reason for doing so.

This reason often comes from their context, which may relate to candidate resentment, that they always put themselves first, or something else.

Establish the context, and two things can happen:

  1. added information helps qualify suitability

  2. informs how we work with that candidate

What can we do differently to have those same heroes see the advantage in not surprising us?

And for the candidates who don’t behave in a way that disadvantages us, how can that same view benefit them too?


Talking of heroes, one of the classic archetypes in literature is the hero’s journey.

It’s a common type of story that you’ll find in anything from Star Wars to Headhunters.

Common because we all identify with themes such as self-discovery, growth and transformation. Common themes in a career too.

And any candidate is quite figuratively on a journey with us through our hiring process.

Is it any surprise that if things go wrong, ex-candidates might see us as villains, irrespective of the part we played?

It goes to follow that understanding how they experience the journey they share with us allows us to find ways to improve the journey for them.

And if the journey improves for this person who may be an ideal employee, how does it improve for us?

I’d be happy to take any appropriate measure to improve the odds of hiring the most suited candidate.


When was the last time you applied to one of your own jobs as a fresh candidate through your ATS?

What would you experience if you read your own advert for the first time? Whether a publicly listed job posting, a direct message or even a phone call.

How does your interview process benefit your candidates? What would you want from these interviews if you were the candidate?

How does a candidate experience a lower-than-expected offer, even if you can pay more with the expectation they’ll negotiate?

How do they experience unexpected delays in a process?

How do they experience an update to say no update?

How do they experience a lack of reply, and how might this inform their approach if you contact them about vacancies in future?


Of course, a common objection is how volume makes individual service impractical, yet isn’t that the point of automation?

Both in replacing manual work at scale (rejections) and in enabling us to focus on work that matters - such as those individual relationships that suffer when we are too busy.

While if you don’t use automation effectively, what will happen to recruiters when forthcoming AI does it for us?


There are so many adjustments we can make straightforwardly that improve the candidate-hero journey. Ones which are in our control.

By putting ourselves in their shoes, and establishing how we can either draw them forwards or push them away, we can improve experiences for everyone.

Not just all candidates, but the employer and hiring teams too. Given less friction for them reduces their odds of not taking part, and increases the odds of the right people being interested.


Who’s to say that one candidate isn’t the real hero and that we aren’t just side characters in their story?

What would you do differently to improve their story, so that you benefit too?

Thanks for reading.

Regards,

Greg

p.s. I have one tough vacancy that requires further attention. Other than that, my other three projects are in hand, and I’ve finished writing my employer adverts. So if you need a hand in your hero’s journey of filling a key vacancy, managing some recruitment fractionally, or improving processes, drop me a line.

By Greg Wyatt February 26, 2026
So here were are, the start of a new series. This series may be around 10 editions, looking at the things other industries do that we can implement into recruitment. These were written 3 years ago, right at the start of the AI zazzle, and in some ways have dated quite a bit. In others, the way in which they haven't dated at all, because the principles of how we live our business lives can be universal. So, I'm not sure yet, how much editing I'll do, whether there will be any inclusions, or whether I'll leave articles intact, as a moment in time. I've learnt all of these notions from candidates and clients, as I came to understand the function of their vacancies. Hearing about the daily practice from people doing jobs, I couldn't help but notice the same relevance in recruitment. So while these articles are hardly comprehensive, perhaps they'll make you look at your candidates differently, in what we can learn from them, and how that might improve our recruitment. Why five? December 2022 Ask anyone involved in active recruitment what their key problems are, and they’ll likely talk about skills shortages and candidate behaviour. On the face of it, problems which are out of our control, worthy of complaint with little opportunity to find improvement. But what if these were issues that weren’t entirely out of our control? What if we could apply a replicable process to understand what’s really going on, and how we can make a difference? Fortunately, we needn’t invent the wheel, as other industries have already done this for us. One such is 5Y, or Five Whys, a problem-solving technique that was developed by Toyota in the 1930s. It's part of the Toyota Management System that has inspired much of my work. Five is the general number of “Why?”s needed to get to the root of a problem. Often you can get to the heart of the issue sooner, sometimes later. Often there are multiple root causes. More than just solving problems, it’s about establishing practical countermeasures to prevent these problems from coming up in future. 5Y is an example of Toyota’s philosophy of “go and see”: working on the shop floor to find out how things work in practice to find ways for iterative improvement. This isn’t a theoretical idea to try out on a whim – it’s based on grounded reality and almost always works. There are two costs – time and accountability. Here’s a practical example, then a recruitment one. (Names have been removed to protect my identity) Problem 1 : The children were late for school. Why? Traffic held us up. Why? We left the house late. Why? The children weren’t ready on time. Why? Their school uniforms weren’t prepared. Why? We hadn’t set them out the night before. Here the countermeasure is to get everything ready the night before, rather than blame traffic for being late. Perhaps we might have gotten to school on time without heavy traffic, but that is an element out of our control. Of course, here there is another root cause – very naughty children – but better to focus on the simple changes. And sometimes traffic is the root cause after all, once you’ve ruled out other elements in your control. (2026 note: my eldest now often drives my youngest to school. A time laden solution I hadn't considered three years ago. Now I don't care if they're late 😆) Problem 2: Candidates keep ghosting us. Why? They weren’t committed to responding. Why? They didn’t accept my requirement for a response. Why? They saw no value in my requirement. Why? I didn’t create an environment where this requirement has value ( root cause 1 ). Or because they are very naughty candidates, with a bad attitude. Why have we allowed someone with a bad attitude in our recruitment process? Because we didn’t prequalify them well enough ( root cause 2 ) The first root cause is something we can work on by giving candidates what they need, building trust, and working to mutual obligations. There are many ways to do this – I’ve already talked about examples in previous newsletters. It comes down to good candidate experience and reciprocity. The second root cause requires us to work harder at understanding candidate needs, aspirations, behaviours and attitudes at the outset of a recruitment process. There’s a reason for their behaviour. We can be accountable for finding it. That’s no mean skill to develop, yet an essential one for anyone whose core responsibility is recruitment. And it’s hard to do in a transactional volume process, so the question then becomes, does your process help more than it hinders? You can apply 5Y to any issue you come across, as long as you are prepared to be accountable. At worst you may find that the things that were out of your control are at fault. In this case, you are at least armed with good information to report to your stakeholders, by ruling out other possibilities. What’s the point of doing all this? For me it’s continually improving how I recruit, with the consequence, in the example above, that I am rarely ghosted at all. And you can 5Y any issue you come across. Are poor agency CV submissions their fault, or in part down to your briefing and process? Are skills genuinely scarce, or is your requirement unrealistic? Is it true that your agency hasn’t listened to you, or do you engage the right partners in the right way? 5Y has the answers. Regards, Greg
By Greg Wyatt February 23, 2026
What follows is Chapter 21 in A Career Breakdown Kit (2026) . It's a good example of how a job search is an inverted recruitment exercise, but also how the same principles from recruitment can be applied in a job search. Market mapping is one of the first steps of a search process in what is often called headhunting. Here though, instead of an exercise that helps find a person for a job, you help find a job for you. This can be in one chunk, at the outset, and iteratively, as you learn more information. It's a great example of how LinkedIn can be used as a data repository, given the vast majority of professionals are present here. And if they are present here, the insight that is their careers is too, allowing you to identify potential viable employers, who works there, and therefore where else they may have worked, with further potential hiring managers. The snake that eats its own tail. Try doing the iterative work above, every time you come across someone new, whether in an application or in networking . You can use this to build out your network, identify companies to contact proactively. Simon Ward and I will talk more on this in our LinkedIn Live on Tuesday February 24th at 1pm GMT. You can join us, and view the full recording afterwards, here: Is The Nature Of Networking Changing for Job Hunters? If you happen to read this as a hiring authority, market mapping is one of the invisible processes in a structured search. It can often take me 80 to 100 hours to fully map a role for potential viable candidates, given I try to find non-traditional candidates as well as those that are easier to find through sourcing. 21 - Map the market Market mapping is a common activity in executive search. Why wouldn’t you adopt the same approach in your inverse of a recruitment exercise? The idea is to fully understand your market, so that you are better able to navigate it. This is a summary chapter because market mapping is both a strategic and a tactical exercise. I’ll cover some of the How of mapping in Part Three. There are three ways in which to map the market. The vacancies you are qualified for This is about determining which vacancies you should focus your attention on. In which domains does your capability directly apply? This could be context related, if your expertise is in start-ups, growth, downsizing or other contexts. It could be industry related - your process manufacturing expertise might directly apply in food, plastics or pharmaceuticals. It could be job related, with the right applicable skills. Establish where there is a market for you, and if what you offer is needed by that market. Advice on the transferable skills trap (p55) and whether you are qualified (p178) to apply will help. The geography of your job search Where are all the employers and vacancies that you can sustainably commute to? A geographical map can help you target opportunities by region. What resources are available to help you with this map? Searching online for local business parks, even driving around them, can give a list of viable companies to contact. Directories and membership hubs. Local newspapers, social media stories. If you see a company you like the look of, say from an advert, search on their local post code. Who else might be there? The chapter on doorknocking (p241) has more ideas. The people of your network Every time you come across someone you might build a relationship with, connect with them on LinkedIn. Then check out their career history. Who else have they worked with? Where else have they worked? This works for peers, hiring managers, and recruiters - a headhunter in one company may well have worked in a similar domain in a previous one. Is there anyone at these previous companies you should introduce yourself to? What about their listed vacancies? Building out a map of relevant recruiters to develop relationships with (if they answer the phone) can lead to vacancies. Treat it as an iterative exercise. Check out the chapter on networking (p236). This map isn’t just about potential opportunity. It’s also about information that might be helpful now and in future. This might be for job leads. It might be industry insight you can share through content. It may even be topics for conversation in interviews or with peers. Make sure you track it in the right way, whether through Notion, Excel or other resources you have available. With any information, check it is accurate, then prune appropriately. Prioritise on degrees of separation (closest first) and context fit (where what you need is most closely aligned with what you offer).